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| "What window needs fixing?" the repairman snapped as beads of
sweat rolled
off his forehead. It was a hot, humid August day, and the last
thing I
needed was a grouchy repairman.
"Before I show you," I said,
"let me clarify what I'd like to have done. I
spoke to your supervisor, and
she said you would inspect all my windows
while you are here."
"Look,
lady, I drove around for two hours trying to find your house. Now
I'm way
behind schedule. I don't care what the main office told you, I
don't have
time to inspect all your windows."
"But I've been waiting months for your
company to send a repairman," I
said. "These windows are brand new, and some
of them are scratched. I
specifically asked to have a repairman look at all
the new windows."
"Well, I ain't gonna do it, lady," he huffed. "Now,
show me the window I
came to fix."
"Fine," I thought to myself, as I
showed him the broken window, "I'll fix
you! After you leave, I'm going to
write a scathing letter to your
supervisor. Maybe you'll even lose your job.
Good riddance! Who needs rude
people like you to deal with?"
Just then
something inside my head seemed to say, "Jeanne, what do you
think this man
needs?"
"I don't know, and I don't care," I answered.
"Give him
something to drink," the voice seemed to say. "It's hot. He got
lost coming
to your house. He's frustrated and tired. Offer him a pitcher
of ice
water."
"I'll give him some water, but I'm still going to write that
letter," I
responded. Pushing aside my ruffled feathers, I went to the house
and
filled a pitcher with water and ice.
"Would you like some ice
water?" I asked, handing him a glass and the
pitcher of water. I would have
preferred to pour it over his head.
"Yeah, thanks," he said as he gulped
the water down.
"Now, ask him if he'd like you to pick up some fast food
for him when you
run to the store," the voice inside my head seemed to say.
"He probably
hasn't had time to eat."
"That's a little too much," I
protested. But, reluctantly, I responded to
the voice.
"I have to
return this video to the store and will be gone for just a few
minutes," I
told the repairman. "Can I get you anything to eat while I'm
out? There's a
McDonald's where I'm going."
"Lady, you're a real lifesaver," the man
said. "Here, meet my son. He's
helping me today. We're so far behind on our
schedule that we haven't had
time to eat." Then, reaching into his pocket for
some money, he told me
what he and his son wanted.
When I returned,
the father and son stopped working and devoured the food
I had brought them.
I went about my work. A few minutes after they had
finished eating, they
completed the repair of the window. "Now, lady," the
rough-looking repairman
said, "what windows did you want me to look at?"
After inspecting all my
windows, he said, "By the way, here's my business
card. If you ever have any
problems with your windows, you call me
personally." He left with a smile on
his face.
As I walked into my house, the voice seemed to say, "Do you
still want to
write that letter?"
"No," I thought. And in that moment,
I knew it was the Lord who had
prompted me to show kindness when I wanted
revenge. "Thank You, Lord," I
prayed, "for giving me this window of
opportunity to make a difference in
someone's life."
By Jeanne Getz
Pallos
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Rule # 1 - MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON AND 90% OF
YOUR PROBLEMS ARE SOLVED
The article below would be useful for both the
married and unmarried ones, please take some time to read.
FINDING AND
KEEPING A LIFE PARTNER
by Dov Heller, M.A.
When it comes to making the
decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet,
with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious
mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Miss. Right!
If you ask
most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say: 'We're
in love'; I believe this is the ..1 mistake people make when they date.
Choosing a life partner should never be based on love. Though this may sound
'not politically correct', there's a profound truth here.
Love is not
the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage.
When the other ingredients are right, then the love will come. Let me say it
again: 'You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone'; You need a
lot more!!! Here are five questions you must ask yourself if you're serious
about finding and keeping a life partner.
QUESTION ..1: Do we share a
common life purpose?
Why is this so important? Let me put it this way: If
you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone.
What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel, eat and jog
together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a
common life purpose.
Two things can happen in a marriage: (1) You can
grow together, or (2)you can grow apart. 50% of the people out there are
growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of
life! Bottom line; marry someone who wants the same
thing.
QUESTION ..2: Do I feel safe expressing my feelings and
thoughts with this person?
This question goes to the core of the
quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly
with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust i.e. trust
that I won't get 'punished'; or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and
feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom
you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with
yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotionally safe with the person you
plan to marry.
QUESTION ..3: Is he/she a mensch?
A mensch is
someone who is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? Here are
some suggestions. Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are
they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good
person as 'someone who is always striving to be good and do the right ';. So
ask about your significant other: What do they do with their time? Is this
person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top
priority is character refinement.
There are essentially two types of
people in the world: (1) People who are dedicated to personal growth and (2)
people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal in life is to
be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You
need to know that before walking down the aisle.
QUESTION ..4: How
does he/she treat other people?
The one most important thing that makes
any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability
to give another person pleasure.
Ask: Is this someone who enjoys
giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self
absorbed? To measure this, think about the following: How do they treat
people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, bus boys, taxi
drivers, etc.. How do they treat their parents and siblings? Do they have
gratitude and appreciation? If they don't have gratitude for the people who
have given them everything; can you do nearly as much for them? You can be
sure that someone, who treats others
poorly, will eventually treat you poorly
as well.
QUESTION ..5: Is there anything I'm hoping to change about this
person after we're married?
Too many people make the mistake of
marrying someone with the intention of trying to 'improve' them after they're
married. As a colleague of mine puts it: 'You can probably expect someone to
change after marriage for the worse' If you cannot fully accept this person
the way they are now, then you are not ready to marry them.
In
conclusion, dating doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is
to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays
to be as objective as possible when you are dating; to be sure to
ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is
a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on our finger, you
don't want to find yourself trouble because you didn't do your
homework.
Another perspective. ..There are some people in your life that
need to be loved from a distance.. It's amazing what you can accomplish when
you let go of or at least minimize your time with draining, negative,
incompatible, not going anywhere relationships. Observe the relationships
around you. Pay attention... Which ones lift and which ones lean? Which ones
encourage and which ones discourage? Which ones are on a path of growth
uphill and which ones are going downhill? When you leave certain people do
you feel better or feel worse? Which ones don't appreciate you? Which ones
make you feel good, praises you, boosts you with loving and caring words or
annotations.
The more you seek quality, respect, growth, peace of mind,
love and truth around you...the easier it will become for you to decide who
gets to sit in the front row and who should be moved to the balcony of your
life.
An African proverb states, 'Before you get married, keep both eyes
open, and after you marry, close one eye'; Before you get involved and make
a commitment to someone, don't let lust, desperation, immaturity,
ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to
warning signs.Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourself that you can
change someone or that what you see as faults isn't really that important. Do
you bring out the best in each other? Do you compliment and compromise with
each other, or do you compete, compare and control? What do you bring to
the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past
mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter them. You
can't make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop
self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and 'a life'; you won't find yourself
making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your
pain. Seeking status, sex, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a
relationship.
WHAT KEEPS A RELATIONSHIP STRONG IS:
1. TRUST
2.
COMMUNICATION
3. INTIMACY
4. A SENSE OF HUMOR
5. SHARING TASKS
6.
DAILY EXCHANGES (meal, shared activity, hug, call, touch, notes, etc.)
7.
SHARING COMMON GOALS AND INTERESTS
8. GIVING EACH OTHER SPACE TO GROW WITHOUT
FEELING INSECURE
9.GIVING EACH OTHER A SENSE OF BELONGING AND ASSURANCES OF
COMMITMENT
10. CONCERN AND CARE FOR YOUR LOVER IN YOUR OWN
WAYS.
If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as
resentment withdrawal, abuse, neglect, and dishonesty; and pain will
replace.
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| Cancer Prevention the Chinese way
fighting cancer with less acidic blood?
curious? read on...
Under weakly alkaline condition, cancerous cells will not be able to grow, or even to survive. Actual case studies, very important, please read patiently and pass this on. Please read this article in full patiently, it will be helpful to your health.
More that 30 years ago, a Mr Zhang who
work in the public sale department of a Taipei Brewery, participated in the brewery overseas study selection examination, and passed with flying colours.
Before going overseas during the physical examination at a public hospital, it was discovered that he has a tumour growth in his lung of the size of a child's feast, and therefore was not able to go overseas to study. The greatly disappointed Mr Zhang has always been suspicious that the diagnosis was wrong. So he went to another hospital for a check-up, the result confirm that previous diagnosis was not in error.
For the youthful and healthy Mr Zhang
to be stricken down with such terminal illness, in his despair, he rang his old class mate who at the time was Taidong County Government, Huangsun County Mayor's secretary, Mr Wei. Mr Weil rushed to Taipei during his rest day on a Sunday to see Mr Zhang.
Mr Zhang discussed with Mr Wei in details his despair and pessimism, and entrusted his friend regarding his affairs after his death. Coincidentally, Mr Wei was a good friend of Dr Lu Geling, who was in charge of the Maijie Hospital, 1945-55, and specialised in the clinical research into cancer cases.
He immediately suggested that Mr Zhang went and see Dr Lu for treatment. At first, Mr Zhang said he preferred not to see anymore doctors, so as to add further to his misery.
But Mr Wei told him that he had telephone Dr Lu before to seek his advice and arrange an appointment. Mr Zhang felt obligated and went with Mr Wei to meet Dr Lu.
When Dr Lu met with Mr Zhang, Dr Lu said: " Mr Wei is a friend and introduce you and I to get to know each other. This is destiny. Thank you. Let me ask you do you know why is cancer referred to as terminal illness?"
Both Mr Zhang and Mr Wei did not how to answer. Dr Lu explained: "There are only two approaches taken by human to treat cancer to date. The first is to destroy the source of the disease. The second is the increase the capability to fight the disease.
But the strange thing is that, cancer
whether we use Cobalt 60 or other drug to destroy the cancer cells, however, before the cancer cells are killed, the good cells are destroyed first.
On the other hand, no matter we use what nutrients or supplements, before the good cells have a chance to absorb them, the cancer cells have taken them up and it simply speeds up the grow of cancer.
Therefore both approaches are doomed to failure, that is why cancer is terminal."
Dr Lu continues:
"Human being is most clever, they have successfully landed on the moon. But why is it no one ever question the above two approaches for treating cancer are nothing but self defeating dead-ends, try to seek out a third avenue?
When I was conducting clinical research
in Majie Hospital, I had many opportunities to work with and being helped by many colleagues in the Hospital. I discovered that the blood tests of 100% of the cancer patients showed that the blood sample are acidic.
Those Buddhist monks and nuns who are
long term vegetarians and live very close to Nature, their blood are prevalently weakly alkaline and amongst them, there has yet to discover any cancer cases
Therefore, I boldly concluded that under weakly alkaline condition, cancer cells are not able to grow, or even to survive.
Mr Zhang, I would suggest that starting
from now you reduce your intake of the acidic meaty dishes. Take more of the alkaline food. In addition you can take green algae and soup made from water chestnuts with shell. Modify your physical condition, and try seriously to have a regular life style which is close to Nature. If you can manage to stay alive for five years, you should have no further problem. I wish you the best of luck."
Mr Zhang follow Dr Lu's suggestion and seriously alter his eating habits.
Every day, he ate green algae, drank
chestnut soup, be optimistic and doing appropriate amount of exercise, and went back to the same public hospital for a check up. It was discovered that not only that the tumour did not increase in size, on the contrary it showed signs of shrinking, and surprised the hospital staff conducting the check-up as a miracle. Five years later, the tumour s shrunk to such a state as to be almost disappear.
After almost 40 years, presently Mr Zhang's health is totally normal, and living a very pleasant life. Following Mr Zhang, a Mr Chen Tianshou, who was previously Head of the General Administration of the Taidong Provincial Hospital, was similarly diagnosed with lung cancer.
When Mr Wei heard of this, he told Mr Chen of the experience of Mr Zhang, and Mr Chen started to follow the instructions of Dr Lu to change his physical condition. The outcome was that he was able to recover fully from the cancer, just like Mr Zhang.
At that time, Mr Lu and his family have emigrated to the United States. After the two cases, he returned to Taiwan and met up with Mr Wei.
Mr Wei told Dr Lu about the experiences of Mr Zhang and Mr Chen, and suggested that let the two of them detailed their experiences to Dr Lu in person, so that Dr Lu could publish a report on his self cure body conditioning method.
Dr Lu very humbly replied:
"I am too old, besides, I do not have any clinical records of theoutcomes. I would ask that you tell your friends and relatives, if they are agreeable, then please continue this experience and spread
the words … … "
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One should take care of oneself but should also be caring about others, 85% of cancer patients have acidic in their physical condition
Blood of healthy persons is weakly
alkaline in nature, with a pH of about 7.35 to 7.45. Babies' blood is also weakly acidic. As adults mature their blood becomes
more acidic in nature. According to a study of 600 cancer patients, of their bodily fluid, 85% of the patients are acidic . Therefore, how to maintain the weakly acidic nature of our body is the first step for moving far away from diseases.
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Acidic physical conditions manifest itself in:
1. Skin without luster
2. Athlete's foot
3. Feeling tire even with very little exercise, and feeling sleep the moment one gets on to public buses
4. Easily out of breath going up and down stair
5. Fat and with lower stomach protruding,
6. Move slowly and movement lethargic
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Why does the body physical condition turn acidic?
1. Excessive intake of dairy acidic
food.
a) meat, dairy products, eggs, beef, ham, etc are acidic food
b) taking too much acidic food will cause the blood to become acidic and viscous, difficult to flow to the end of blood vessels, leading to cold feet or knee, stiff shoulders and insomnia.
c) When one is young and strong, taking suitable quantity of meat is appropriate, but older people it more suitable to have a diet which are primarily vegetables or small fish.
2. Irregularity in the pace of life
will cause the body physical condition to become acidic
a) Irregular pace in life will lead to mental and physical stress
b) According to statistics, people who sleep late are more likely to have cancer than normal persons, by as much as 5 times.
c) Human beings originally lead a life with regular tempo in this world, it is not possible to store up sleep or food and not possible to change the order of living by mixing up days and nights.
d) Human organs are controlled by the autonomic nerves, and during day time it is mainly sympathetic nerves activities, and at night it is mainly the parasympathetic nerves which are functioning, If this order is disturbed and reversed, then diseases will result.
3. Emotion over tensed
a) Civilised society brings stresses
b) Job related or mental stresses
c) A person suffers mental stress, when the stress is removed and the person relaxes, sometimes this may lead to death, referred to as the syndrome of imperfect adrenal cortex function.
4. Physical Stress
a) Before any operation it would be necessary to check to see if the renal cortex does function normally. If the adrenal cortex is lacking, or if the stress imposed by the operation exceeded the ability of adrenal cortex to cope, it could lead to death or other undesirable impacts.
b) If it noted that patient's face is puffy, it would be necessary to inquire in detail the patient's medical history and medication status, for patients taking adrenal cortical hormone, extra care should be exercise when administering acupuncture.
c) Stress due to physical labour or exercise in excess, whole night card games, driving etc should be avoided as much as possible
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Appendix: Acidity/alkalinity of Common
food stuff
1. Strongly acidic food: egg yolk, cheese, cake make withwhite sugar or persimmon, mullet fish roe, dried cod.
2. Mildly acidic food: ham, bacon, chicken meat, squid,pork, eel, beef, bread, wheat, butter, horse meat etc
3. Weakly acidic food: white rice, peanut, beer, alcohol, oil fried tofu, sea weed, clam, octopus, catfish
4. Weakly alkaline food: red bean, radish, apple, cabbage, onion, tofu etc.
5. Mildly alkaline food: dried radish, soya bean, carrot, tomato, banana, orange, pumpkin strawberry, egg white, dried plum, lemon, spinach, etc.
6. Strongly alkaline food: grape, tea leave, grape wine, kelp sprout, kelp, etc. Especially natural green algae which contain
rich quantity of chlorophyll are very good alkaline health food, but tea should not be drunk in excess, and best to drink in the morning.
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| HOW to ConTroL yOur cRaviNg for Bad / JunK fOod...
Have you ever routinely experienced
irresistible and sudden food cravings for junk food like chocolates, ice cream,
potato chips, cookies, french fries and the likes? Well…You are not
alone!
Is it normal for us to crave as a natural part of our relationship
with food. However, there’s a difference between cravings and hunger
pangs. When we r hungry, we would tend to eat everything in sight!
Where as when it comes to cravings, it gets specific. A lot of people
crave for things like pizza and chocolate and for some even to it’s particular brand.
Though cravings can be paralyzing at times, when we just
can’t help it but succumb to it, they are actually very predictable and
come at particular times of the day (or most likely night).
However, we actually control our cravings. Below are some pointers from my PT friend... perhaps smt that's good to share...There are ways to counter
it and we could try out when the cravings hit us. Problems:
- Skipping meals or eating at irregular times
- Lack of ‘good and healthy’ carbohydrates
- Not enough protein and good dietary fats
- Too much salt
- Too much processed/refined carbohydrates
- Too much sugar
- Chronic under-eating (thinking that this would lead to weight loss)
Solutions (overview):
- Eat mini, palm sized meals every 3-4 hours
- Make sure there’s lean protein, generous serving of veges and a dose of healthy fats in each mini meal
- Eliminate sugary/processed foods from your diet
- Minimize salt intake
- Find healthier alternatives to satisfy your sweet tooth
- Explore non-food ways (walking, jogging) to prevent emotional eating
- Exercise more
- Get 7-8 hours of sleep each night
Solutions (more detailed):
- Supplement with zinc, magnesium and chromium as these deficiencies are the common reasons for cravings
- Keep a small bottle of vanilla essence and sniff it every time you crave for something
- Keep bad, bad foods out of your way. Throw it our from your pantry!
- Stock up on fruits and nuts instead
- Brush your teeth and the ‘minty’ after taste would actually kill your junk food thoughts
- Have a ‘lighter’ version of the bad stuff but not all the times. Only for treats yeah.
- Drink more water.
- Reward yourself with something that’s not food.
- Look at yourself in the mirror.
- Drink a low carb protein shake and have a handful of walnuts/almonds
- Prepare yourself a sugar free gelatin dessert
- Mix up some Crystal Light drink mix and drink it up!
DO try these strategies out first and see which one works for you and
which doesn’t. I do gain some benefits from it! (those tt i've bolded)  Cheers!
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| It has been 1 year....
So many things has happened which has left bad memories/scars in my heart...
2 more days to my birthday...
Birthday wish this year - to be Happy... and may those i love live happily as well...
GOD... pls bring back the smile in my face...
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